Husband threatened to spank me
Is it just stupid hope, or do you think we can make it?
You can't just stay separated forever and expect your husband to hang around and wait for you.
Start by creating some ground rules, which should include not dating anyone else while the two of you are dating.
I can hear your pain and frustration when you share the story of personal disasters; conversely, life is made up of ebbs and flows and the commitment you both made to each other over thirty years ago was not only a contract but an eternal promise:
MORE IN LIFE
Your husband's dark moods may have been a reflection of what was going between the two of you, or in this case, not going on between the two of you.
I don't want to play the fool again.
At first I was furious, jealous and hurt even though I knew I had no right to be.
I told him about my affair but kept my post-separation dating a secret.